The Other Side of Fear

What would you do if you weren’t afraid?

It wasn’t that long ago I was sitting at my desk in corporate America. Begrudgingly questioning how I could possibly be wanting to quit. I had finally “made it”.

Yet there I was contemplating the unthinkable. I wanted to leave my job to start my own business and travel more. Eventually I made the decision to leave and am happy I did. However, this took patience, planning and required navigating a sea of fear.

A moment of realization. I was creating my future and living my dream.

It was a wild thought at the time. I had achieved multiple degrees in higher education while pursuing a reality I thought I wanted. My position was in a growing career field. The salary was more than I ever imagined and the work was challenging and thought provoking.

• The best way to predict the future is to create it

The problem was I had climbed a ladder leaning against the wrong building. The bigger problem was that I let my ego keep me in a position longer than I should have been.

I had always been a creative growing up and at some point lost my way. Although it can be argued there is plenty of room for creativity in the tech industry, it wasn’t the type I was after.

So I made up my mind based on a few considerations. In no particular order, but rather as a whole, I used the following concepts to drive my decision. Try asking yourself these questions and be honest with your answers.

• Will I regret not trying if I don’t give it a shot?

If I stay, will I ever truly be happy?

• Do I really believe I can achieve my ambition?

• Am I willing to sacrifice everything before I give up?

It was actually quite scary when I asked myself these questions. This was especially true because I knew where it could lead. It’s a pretty intense moment when you commit to sacrificing everything before you quit.

I’ve been in a position where I had nearly no worldly possessions. A position where every move you make could break your bank account or put you in a significantly worse position. I kept telling myself I had been at the bottom before and climbed up. That said, I knew it was possible to do it again.

Taking calculated risks and surpassing your fears will lead to great discoveries.

I’d be lying if I said there wasn’t a bit of fear having already made my way out of some considerable lows. However, something I think about often is a message my mom shared with me years ago. She said something along the lines of allowing fear to prevent her from doing many things in her life.

She’s getting better these days at not allowing fear to dictate decision making too much, but the what if is still there. The decisions you make now create the future of tomorrow and our time on this earth is limited. However, her getting better with not allowing fear to dictate her decision making is a good indicator that you can too.

“Everything you want is on the other side of fear.”

Jack Canfield

I’ve always made it a point to charge directly at whatever it is that causes me fear. You should make it a habit as well.

It tends to be the correct decision because it’s outside our normal comfort zone. It’s a good indicator that you’re in a position to grow and develop when you’re uncomfortable.

It’s these moments that I crave. The opportunities that present themself in the most trying of times. I believe the growth that happens during these periods is significantly stronger than at periods of less stress and tension.

“The goal is not comfort, it is freedom.”

– Grant Cardone

I’ve only been out of my corporate career about two years as of writing this. However, I feel like these last two years have been some of my most significant periods of growth.

This is the epitome of why I’m creating Tasty Dangerous ™. It’s an amazing thought that I could help others achieve their ambitions by sharing my trials and tribulations.

I challenge you to ask yourself the questions I posed to myself. Be honest with yourself.

Will you regret not giving it a shot? If so is this something you can live with later in life?

Will you be truly happy if you stay in whatever position you’re currently in? This can apply to more than just a career. If you don’t see yourself being happy ask yourself why.

“Hardships often prepare ordinary people for an extraordinary destiny”

– C.S. Lewis

Can you make it happen if you make the change to leave whatever it is that’s holding you back? If you aren’t sure don’t get discouraged. Use it as an opportunity to problem solve yourself. Figure out what it is you need to do to position yourself to make it happen.

“Don’t wish it were easier. Wish you were better.”

– Jim Rohn

Are you truly willing to sacrifice everything to make it happen? This is a significant question and should not be made hastily. If your answer is no, ask why not? When you have that answer then you can begin to prepare. You’ll know when you’re ready and this will be different for everyone.

When your answer is yes, be prepared for some very intense trial by fire moments in the coming years. Moments when you’ll question why you ever made the decision. That said, believe that you will also have true moments of clarity and serenity you may have never discovered without going through the fire.

I’ve been able to develop my business the last few years into something that was difficult to imagine only two years ago. Knowing what I know now I’m seeing the next two years as an amazing new adventure.

I was never told it was going to be easy. In fact I don’t want it to be easy and neither should you. It makes the victories so much more tasty…..Tasty Dangerous!

Reflection and clarity… you too can have your moment when you push beyond the fear.

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