Dreams and Taking Action
Welcome to the show everyone, thanks for joining me!
Todays date is February 11th, 2019
We are on episode #1 of the Tasty Dangerous Podcast.
I hope your day is going as good as mine!
I’m super excited because today we’re talking about Dreams and taking action.
Why does it matter? Well…. I’ll tell you. Specifically in terms of why it matters to Lifestyle Development.
To do that, we’re gonna talk a bit about
- Dreams and why they’re important
- Goals and how to achieve them
- Fears and why they’re a good thing
And all the while I’ll be sharing a bit about my own experiences getting to where I am now.
Without further ado lets just jump right in!
So Dreams…. Do you have one? Do you have more than one?
What are they?
Now before we go too far into that I wanna add…
This episode was inspired by the quote from Greg S. Reid. For those of you who aren’t familiar it goes like this…
“A dream written down with a date becomes a goal. A goal broken down into steps becomes a plan. A plan backed by action makes your dreams come true.”
Again that’s – Greg S. Reid
So – first I’m gonna share a bit about my own life.
If you listen to this podcast or read my blogs enough you’ll start to find a common theme.
1 – I’ve always been an adventure and creative
2 – My experience in the military shaped me significantly.
3 – Pursuing higher education was a big aspect of my life…. I love learning.
All this was followed by some time in corporate pursuing what I thought was my dream… and to be fair, at the time it was a good dream.
However, I took reaching that goal to realize that the dream I started with wasn’t what I had hoped for.
That is what led to me leave and starting my own small company that allowed for the freedom I aspired to have.
The Freedom I thought I’d have by climbing a corporate ladder.
I’m still an adventurer and I still enjoy learning. I consume data on a regular basis… and enjoy connecting the dots.
What I mean by all this is, I’ll read tech news, science and business news and creative articles amongst other things …. and I enjoy trying to make sense of it all as a big picture.
Whether it’s meant to be connected or not.
For example, I like reading about what’s happening with science and tech discoveries and conceptualizing how I think it may shape a business landscape on a macro and micro level.
I also consider the implications of these discoveries and how they may impact a variety of creative fields…
with knowledge comes new possibilities… and the arts, like any industry, can gain from this knowledge.
So let’s connect some dots. And I promise you this will be a lot more relevant that just spiraling down the info hole we call the internet.
Dreams, why are they important?
Honestly I’d hope nobody out there truly believes dreams are hopeless… because that is a dystopian outlook. It’s dark, cold….. boring.
It’s also an outlook that can be self manifested in your own life and unfortunately I’ve watched this happen with my own eyes to some people in my life and I wish I could have helped.
Anymore I’m not sure what to tell anyone if they don’t believe they can create their own future or at least modify and evolve it based on their actions.
There’s an old saying where I come from… ie the boondocks, and that saying is this:
“You can lead a horse to water, but you can not make it drink”.
It’s true on so many levels. So I’m not gonna spend much more time on this. In my eyes dreams are important.
Dreams are motivation.
Motivation to do more than what’s easy.
Motivation to better yourself. Whether that’s mentally, physically, spiritually or financially.
Not necessarily in that order.
They all have their place and these aspects are the building blocks of our lives.
You may not believe in all of them, but chances are there is at least one of those concepts that rings true to you.
So dreams. Again I ask, do you have one? if someone asked you right now, what is your dream, could you give them an answer in 10-15 seconds or less?
The reason I say 10-15 seconds is because if you can’t verbalize your dream in that time, then you haven’t developed it enough in your own mind.
I just ask… give it some thought.
I’ll share with you what my last dream was.
I’ll also share with you the goals I created and the steps I took action on to achieve the dream.
Realistically I’m still working to develop that dreams full potential and will be for the forceable future.
However, I can honestly say that I reached a point where I feel like I’ve achieved my initial dream.
That dream… was to be self sufficient running my own videography and multimedia company and to have the freedom to travel more than just two weeks a year.
That’s it…… and I say that lightly, but I’m sure you understand.
I wanted to run my own business and to sustain myself financially while traveling periodically throughout the year.
Notice, nowhere in there was I talking about buying a fancy car or a big house or what that travel actually looked like.
I’m not a picky eater, I don’t require name brand anything and I’m ok sleeping on a cot or a couch if that’s what’s required.
That’s not saying I wouldn’t like nice things, but sacrifice is a big aspect of achieving your dreams. More on that later.
So I’ve been able to manage this now for about two years and I’m about to go on another adventure to SE Asia to do some of my own video work.
If you follow my blog or podcast in the coming months you’ll hear all about it, but I digress.
So dreams, they’re important because they will give you the motivation you need.
Now write that dream down and give it a date. By doing this, It’ll help give you the sense of urgency you may need.
I gave myself a date as to when I was going to leave corporate and that was a year out. I had to position myself financially and in many ways mentally.
Hasty decisions rarely lead to to the most ideal outcomes. I’d suggest taking some time to create a realistic goal.
This will be different for everyone.
Now on to the goals portion of the podcast.
So, how do you break down a goal into steps that will be your plan to execute?
If you’ve never tried creating a plan of action I think a good place to start for you is the end.
What I mean by that is create a reverse plan. Start at the end, or the desired result, and work backwards from there.
This is typically reserved for long term projects and something I learned about is school for writing big research papers.
There are alot of resources online so I won’t go too far into detail, but at the highest level it works something like this.
I’ll use writing a paper as an example since it’s something most people can understand.
so in regards to a writing assignment, you’d first identify when you need to submit the final copy. The due date. From there, work backwards.
Use time as a major consideration of feasibility of this action.
Can you realistically achieve what you’d like in the time you have?
For example, to submit a final copy of said paper, you’d need to have a draft at some point that can be revised.
To create that draft, you’d have to have done sufficient research.
I’ll stop there, but I think you’ll get the idea.
It’s like a cascading waterfall, it builds on itself. you need to accomplish one last before the next.
Rather than start at the beginning and get overwhelmed with a variety of what if scenarios, just start at the end with what’s known.
From there you can answer your own questions based on what you’ve already identified.
So what’s a realistic goal?
Great question, but this will be determined individually.
For example how much are you willing to sacrifice?
Not everyone is willing to eat instant noodles, stop shopping for things they want and stay in working on the weekends.
That’s not to say you have to do these things to achieve your goals, but it’s an example of how identifying how far are you willing to go to make it happen.
Only you can answer this question.
Another factor, do you enjoy a challenge?
You really need the answer for this to be yes, because achieving a dream requires an appetite for overcoming challenges.
You can develop this appetite over time, but you need to make it a part of your lifestyle. Challenges are going to be an everyday thing, get to enjoy them and you’ll be much better off.
So I think we’ve covered goals and creating a plan of action.
Once you have clearly defined your dream write it down and give it a date, then create a reverse plan.
Remember, keep it simple. Get the basic outline and from there you can fill it in further.
I’ll share a few aspects of the steps in my plan to achieve my goal.
1 – Get my finances in order. Essentially, get out of debt. Admittedly that was something I was focused on heavily for 4 years already
By the time I made the decision to leave corporate and gave myself the year to do so I was already working on this plan. Non the less it was still applicable to my new goal.
Out of college I didn’t buy a nice car or spend my money on nice things or fancy meals .
You get the idea…
I was paying anywhere from 3-5 times the required payment on my student loans.
This is an example of one of the steps in my plan to achieve my goal.
I looked at my overall debt and told myself I wanted it paid off in 5 years…I gave it a date.
Then I addressed what needed to be done and did it.
This was realistic for me, because I looked at my finances and debt to income ratio and determined I was able and willing to make this sacrifice.
Thankfully I had a nice salary to afford me this ability, but it was a sacrifice non the less.
I just spent 6 years getting through my undergraduate and masters degree.
When I finally finished school and landed the job, it seemed like I didn’t get to reap the rewards.
Again sacrifice is necessary.
2 – Another step in my plan to achieve my goal of leaving corporate and pursuing my own videography business was…..
Create a large enough savings that could sustain me living frugally for a year. This was based on research that I had done regarding living in a developing country.
This was also determined by my own definition of living frugally or living within the means necessary to achieve said goal.
I used that time, the year abroad, to focus on my craft and develop my skills in the videography industry.
I wasn’t really making money.
However, I was chasing opportunities.
This is another example of a step in my plan that I identified as necessary to achieve my goal.
As a videographer if you don’t know what you’re doing it can get you into bad situations when someone is paying you money for a desired outcome.
They have put their trust in you and if you fail them you will know. I wanted to do everything in my abilities to ensure that didn’t happen.
Besides that, I needed a portfolio.
I had been doing videography on the side while in corporate, but it wasn’t to the calibre I felt necessary. I knew I had to up my game.
Again… work for free and pursue opportunities. A step in my plan to achieve my goal.
Not for everyone, that’s for sure.
Ok, Moving on.
We’ve discussed Dreams and why they’re important.
We’ve also discussed goals and creating plans to achieve these goals.
Now Fears….and why they’re a good thing.
Everyone has them in some capacity.
Some folks are really good at not allowing these fears to dictate their decisions, for better of worse.
The thing about fears is they can be misleading
My understanding is fear is a primitive instinct that was developed to keep us safe.
Think snakes, spiders, big scary eyes looking at you through the leaves in a jungle…. At the time, fears would help increase the survivability of humans.
Fast forward to modern times and these fears that are deeply engrained in us can get confused in scenarios that are not applicable.
Think fight or flight. If you feel that someone or something is threatening you, whether it’s true or not, you may react primitively and that can cause problems.
I’m willing to bet at some point in time in everyones they’ve experienced miscommunication and that created an otherwise unnecessary conflict.
Again, Fears have their place, but can often be confused during times that are not necessary.
There’s a quote by Franklin D. Roosevelt that leads me to why fears are good.
The quote is this.
“Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the assessment that something else is more important than fear.”
Think about that. Without fear there is no courage.
Everyone will have their own level of courageous abilities.
What I mean by that is some folks will look at something that they’re afraid of and not do it for whatever reason.
A basic example of this is skydiving. Something I enjoyed myself considerably for a number of years.
It’s really a safe sport and a lot of fun.
However, it still amazes me how some people perceive this sport.
In their mind the act of jumping out of a plane is insane and there is nothing that will convince them otherwise.
Yet there are others that find it exhilarating and choose to make a career out of it.
It’s just different levels of fear and courage. Not saying one is better than the other.
The one debate that you really cant argue with is if you never jump out of a plane the odds are highly unlike, if not impossible, that you ever will die from jumping out of a plane…. self preservation. Gotta respect that.
so moving on
Fear.. it can be what instructs you. Listen to it and it will guide you.
What I mean by that is the following.
I recently posted a blog about fear on my site tastydangerous.com.
That blog was inspired by a quote from George Addair.
“Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear.”
I mentioned in that blog how I try to live my life. I hadn’t heard this quote until recently, but it makes a lot of sense to me now.
As I mentioned earlier, when you’re uncomfortable, it’s a good indicator that you’re in a position of growth and development.
If you’re comfortable, it’s unlikely you’re doing anything to challenge yourself.
That being said, fear can be a good indicator that you’re trying something your unsure of.
Use that fear as an indicator and a motivator to pursue your ambitions.
So I think that about wraps things.
Just to recap…
Dreams are important, try to develop yours so you can explain it in 10-15 seconds if you were asked8.
Goals and plans are necessary to take action to achieve your dreams.
And fears are a good indicator you’re on the right track. Let them motivate you.
Well that does it folks, I hope you enjoyed todays episode and feel like you got something out of it.
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