Motivation: Keeping the flame alive
What’s happenin Tasty Dangerous Crew, thanks for joining me!
Todays date is February 28th, 2019
We are on episode #3 of the Tasty Dangerous Podcast.
I hope your day is going great, I’m at about 7.5… which is awesome because and it still leaves room for improvement, but it’s well above a mediocre 5! Ya feel me?
Today I’m stoked because we’re talking about Motivation: Keeping the flame burning.
Specifically, how to keep the flame burning as it relates to creative and business endeavors.
I suppose what I’m gonna talk about could be correlated to relationships as well.
However, I am not Dr. Love so I won’t be proclaiming to have any those answers.
Ya know, I think relationships are a lot like building a businesses in that you need to nurture them to grow them, but i digress.
Can save that for another episode, if ever.
So why does Motivation matter? Well…. I’ll tell you. Specifically in terms of why it matters to Lifestyle Development.
But like I always do, before I jump into the show… I’ll say that this episode was inspired by a quote from the Chinese philosopher Confucius.
I’m going to paraphrase because the internet seems to think he said it about 100 different ways.
I’m sure I could find the actual quote if I dig a little, but at the highest level the quote goes something like this.
“Those who believe they can and those who believe they can’t are both right.”
Now that….is fire!
Throughout todays show I’ll discuss a few aspects that fuel my flame while pursuing creative and business endeavors.
I’ll also share aspects that tend to take away from the flame and how I’ve learned to manage them.
So first and foremost, wanna give a shout out to Kyle from MT. He’s been a friend for long time and is currently in pursuit of his own dreams.
He recently reached out and asked to hear my thoughts on “Keeping the fire alive in creativity or business pursuits.”
He suggested that “The big moments of inspiration are fleeting, no matter how intense they seem at the time.”
I’m gonna dig into this in a moment, but I gotta say I’m excited for Kyle.
He has some dreams.
He’s got them written down with a date to create the goals and sounds like he’s continuing to develop the plan to make this happen.
I gotta say from the little we chatted, it sounds like a great plan.
He’s being realistic in terms of time and having a clear understanding of what it takes to achieve big aspirations.
Sending you all the positive vibes bro, I wish you well on your journey!
I hope there are some takeaways from this episode that you can use to help keep your flame burning on your endeavor.
For new listeners, if you haven’t already, be sure to check out episode one of the Tasty Dangerous podcast where I discuss turning dreams into goals and how to create a plan to achieve those goals.
If you have a dream and aren’t sure where to start.
Or if you’ve started and are finding your plan not working quite like you’d hoped, episode one might be what your’re looking for to get back on track.
Now… lets jump right in!
Keeping the flame alive. How do ya do it?
I’m sure many, if not all of us, have had that “ah ha” moment.
The moment a great idea pops into our mind and we get excited.
We feel that initial rush of energy and are motivated to do whatever it takes.
We get up early and go to bed late. We sacrifice not buying the things we want to save or to spend on aspects of the endeavor.
Think not buying that new pair of shoes, eating out or vacations…. because you’re paying the costs associated with opening an LLC or obtaining legal consult pertaining to business operations or simply just putting in the time, which leaves little for recreational activities.
But give it enough time and the thought of “Why am I doing this?” creeps into our mind.
I believe this happens faster these days than ever because we’re in the information age where it’s all about instant gratification.
Not only that, but we’re inundated by media and social content showing how amazing everyones lives are. Whether that’s true or not.
Our lives are the only realities we truly have any insight into.
It can be discouraging when you’re consuming all the filtered realities of those around you as well as what’s being marketed to you.
So give it enough time and enough trials and tribulations and its almost inevitable.
Eventually the idea that we aren’t good enough, smart enough, fast enough… whatever… eventually, that negative energy starts to knock on the door of our mind.
It’s up to you whether you let it in.
However, I’m warning you.
If you let doubt into your mind, it’ll become the house guest you never wanted.
Eating all your food, taking your clothes, making a mess and not cleaning up after itself and all the while not even paying for rent or utilities.
Doubt will create chaos in your mind and your way of thinking.
Like Confucius suggests, whether you believe you can or you can’t you’re right.
So first and foremost, resist. Resist doubt and believe in yourself.
Easier said than done when it seems like all the odds area against you, but resist… and believe in yourself.
This brings me to the next aspect of how to keep that flame alive.
Surround yourself with people and content that share the same vision, values and those that motivate you to be the best version of yourself.
There’s a saying by Jim Rohn that suggests, “You’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with”.
If these people aren’t supportive of your goals, or share the same values and vision, you need to ask yourself why are they a part of your life to begin with?
I’m a big fan of Gary Vaynerchuk and his views and suggestions regarding being an entrepreneur.
Something I’ve seen him share a number of times is how being an entrepreneur is a lonely path. In many ways this is true.
I started to notice this years ago.
While I was grinding in school, or working on art projects or just creating in general, what I noticed was a network of friends I had previously spent a good amount of time with were becoming distant relationships.
I still value these friends and appreciate the time we spent developing our relationships, but what I found was the weekends had just become a ritualistic party.
Work hard during the week and turn up on the weekend.
To many, this is the exact lifestyle they want to live, and for those folks all the power to you. Turn down for what?!
However, I always felt like I was wasting my time after a weekend of partying it up.
Especially when it turned into multiple back to back weekends.
That’s not saying I didn’t enjoy a little bit of fun and socializing, but my mindset shifted from what I deemed fun.
The lost time of not producing always bothered me and I realized that what I really craved was developing content.
Whether that was painting, sculpture, videos or photography… I craved producing.
So I stopped making it a habit to party on the weekends and instead started developing and executing on my ideas.
Much like is happening now with creating Tasty Dangerous, I find developing ideas, shaping and modifying them to be exhilarating.
This idea of being the average of those you surround yourself with also extends to the content you surround yourself with and consume.
Look at what you’re consuming on the internets or television, as well as what you’re reading, and ask yourself if it’s influencing you in a way that supports your endeavor.
A while back I started taking note of all the time I spent watching short YouTube videos or interacting on social media.
Some of the videos were tutorials on what I do for a living and were essentially short training courses on videography, editing or creating motion graphics.
I found the time spent watching this stuff or interacting on social media was eating into a decent chunk of time every day and that added up to 10 or more hours a week.
Social media is something I still try to engage with, but on a much more limited basis and typically it involves my business adventures.
After really considering the time spent I decided to start limiting myself in how much time I allocated to my online consumption and in what regard.
Limiting myself in this way was a big part of what lead to Tasty Dangerous.
Suddenly I had 10 or more hours a week that I could allocate to developing ideas and creating.
At the highest level, what I’m suggesting, is finding balance.
Balance between life and your aspirations.
This is gonna be different for everyone and really comes down to what a realistic goal is for you and your lifestyle.
Shout out to my homie Frankie who’s a good friend and fellow entrepreneur.
We just had a brief conversation and he helped me see this aspect of balance really needed to be on this list of items to help keep the flame burning. Thanks for sharing your insights!
Without balance you can smother your flame and that…. is what we call burn out.
This leads me to my next suggestion.
Have fun. It’s that simple.
There’s an old saying that if you love what you do you never work a day in your life.
Subjective, sure, but in general if you love what you’re doing the long days of work and the weeks of little sleep and sore muscles all seem worth it.
Have fun with it and enjoy the process.
It really is about the journey. Enjoy this and it will help you reach the destination, while still retaining your sanity.
So that’s it really, just have fun with it and learn to enjoy the process.
However, this leads me to the next suggestion on how to keep the flame alive, which is to challenge yourself.
I’ve found that if I don’t feel challenged I can get bored.
This boredom leads to a lack of caring for whatever that task entails.
Now in some cases it’s necessary to just drive on and accomplish whatever that task is regardless of how menial or boring it is.
However, whenever possible, challenge yourself.
These challenges always give you something to strive for.
Something to accomplish that leads to a bigger sense of accomplishment.
You gotta be careful though and know your limitations. This goes back to being realistic and knowing yourself, I talked a bit on this in episode 1.
Know what balance is in your life and have a realistic outlook on what you’re willing to sacrifice to achieve your goals.
I’ve become addicted to challenging myself with bigger and more complicated ambitions.
This isn’t to say that I always succeed at the challenge, or to the level that I’d like to succeed at, but non the less I learn from the challenge and keep moving forward.
For those of you not familiar I also have a blog you can find at TastyDangerous.com and there I have more content on similar topics as I’m discuss here.
A lot of it plays well with these podcast and might help you to develop different ways of thinking when pursuing your goals and maintaining motivation.
So moving on, the next suggestion I have would be to remember to take time off.
I’m not saying how much time because it will vary from person to person, but it’s something that can help.
Taking time off can bring clarity and help reorganize your thoughts.
It can also give you the space from doing whatever it is you’re working on to develop your plan.
It could be that you’ve reached a point of burn out and need the break or you’ve outgrown the plan you started with.
A plan is a great way to monitor your progress and see that you’re actually making progress even if it seems like nothing is happening.
Take a step back from doing and instead take that time to reevaluate.
I like to research and dig for interesting information.
I find spending time reading scientific journals and technology reports leads to interesting insights and discoveries of my own. Whether through creative means or basic application in my own life.
Something I found recently was a collection of studies that was sourced in a Harvard health blog and it was a discussion on sleep, memory and productivity.
I’m sure many of you have heard what I’ll speak on briefly, but for those who haven’t, here it is.
Without throwing any statistics at you and keeping it very high level, sleep has shown to improve memory and productivity.
I’d like to compare this with the idea of taking a break or a step back. Give yourself room to breathe and your mind some time to rest.
When you do this, it allows you to reorganize your thoughts and generate more clarity than the the alternative.
Be cautious though. Too much time away and you may find it difficult to jump back in.
For those of you who enjoy routine exercise… you know exactly what I’m talking about.
The initial week or two back in the gym after some time off can be a bit difficult and sore because you need to recondition your muscles.
This is similar to taking off too much time in your creative or business pursuit. Too much time off and you might need to recondition your mindset to manage the workload.
Using what I’ve shared already will help you with my next suggestion.
Own it. Own the idea. Own your ambition.
I’ll share quickly what I mean by this.
Just over four years ago I started my videography company OpticNinja.com…shameless plug!
However, I was still in the corporate environment working in technology.
When I met new people outside the office and they asked what I do for a living, I’d always say what my title in the office was and explain what that job entailed.
I’d then follow it up by saying on the side I have a small videography business.
I never truly owned what I was aspiring to be until after I left corporate and left no other alternative.
In reality, I should have always been saying I was the owner/operator of my own videography company and I worked in IT on the side.
Now I miss those paychecks from corporate, but I’m feeling more fulfilled these days because I’m doing exactly what I want to be doing rather than chasing the dollar signs.
If you missed my last episode, check it out, I talk on creativity and stay tuned because one of my next episodes will be discussing boredom.
Both of these aspects tie into keeping the flame alive for me in my pursuit of happiness.
So whatever you’re pursuing, own it.
Whether that’s improving creativity, mindset or a business venture, just own it.
You’ll see this carries over to the actions you make on a daily basis. When you truly own it you start to think differently.
You stop trying to find time and you make time.
Now, if you’ve tried many or all of these suggestions and it still seems like a struggle to keep that flame burning, here’s my last suggestion.
Ask for help.
To some of you, this may seem like the last thing you’d ever want to do, but consider this.
If someone came to you and asked your insights into something you had experience with, would you judge that person or would you genuinely feel motivated to help them?
Many people are afraid to ask for help because they’re afraid what other will think of them.
To this I say maybe you’re surrounded by the wrong people.
I can say with certainty, that at anytime, if someone came to me in good faith and asked for help I’d feel honored they thought to ask me.
I’d do everything in my ability to empower them and enable them to make progress in whatever it was I could help with.
What do you have to lose?
Now… Now there is a fine line between being lazy and truly needing a fresh point of view or some good insight or education.
Before you go running out to start asking for help, be sure you’ve done your due diligence.
Make sure you’ve taken the time to research and study what it is you’re unsure about.
When you’ve reached a point that you truly believe you cant get beyond, then ask.
You’ll be prepared to have an intelligent discussion and know what questions to ask.
Last but not least I want to leave you with this.
To stay inspired. To keep that flame burning and to find the energy to keep pushing forward, always remember why you started.
I started my videography business because I wanted the freedom to travel more than a few weeks every year.
I also wanted the ability to create meaningful content for others that helped them improve their businesses or creative pursuits.
Over the last year or two, I’ve hit points where I’ve questioned why I quit my career in corporate.
Typically it comes down to the perceived security of a salary and benefits.
For those of you already pursuing your own businesses, I’m sure you can relate.
The comfort of having a regular paycheck is something not to be overlooked.
However, it’s during these times that I take a step back and a deep breath.
I remind myself why I started and so far, every time I’ve done this it brings a sense of calm and clarity.
I hope some or all of these suggestions can help you in your pursuit of happiness, whatever that may be.
Have fun, challenge yourself, stay inspired and own it.
Well that does it folks, I hope you enjoyed todays episode and feel like you got something out of it.
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